In the beginning of this year, when Facebook wanted to prove that they had taken gay and lesbian couples into account, they finally added domestic partnerships and civil unions to the list of options in the relationship status drop-down menu for the U.S, Canadian, British, Australian and French users.

There are therefore eleven relationship categories Facebook users can choose from: single, in a relationship, engaged, married, it’s complicated, in an open relationship, married, engaged, windowed, separated, divorced, domestic partnerships, and civil unions. However, for many people, when Facebook gets involved, their relationship could quickly fall in the trouble.

Would you love to change your Facebook relationship status when you’re definitely in love with someone? Will everybody say, “Yes” with this choice? Obviously, not everyone agrees. Some couples are still together for many years but omit to publicize their coupledom to their social network.

They explained that these days they don’t list their relationships on Facebook because it might lead to some unexpected problems. There is no need for them to stand on the top of buildings yelling or declaring love like some fool in countless romantic movies. From their perspectives, Facebook relationship status is just about a public acknowledgment.

Their relationship simply does not need to come up with the social network’s trend. Love is not a brand, they don’t need to label it as a status; more importantly they know how to nurture their love. These might be reasons why a large number of people tend to keep it personal.

However, there are lots of couple publicizing their relationship status on Facebook. Last year, 24% changed it to say that they were in a relationship on Facebook – the statistic was presented by Online Dating University in a recently released inforgraphic. Some said that they’re not willing to date anyone exclusively unless their lovers feel comfortable going Facebook public.

The reasons are seemly easy to understand. In their mind, it’s a secured commitment for their relationship. In other way, setting a relationship status on Facebook of course is such clear evidence so that they can confirm their love. Everyone can understand who you’re with, and at the bottom line it is no doubt that your official Facebook relationship status is a good thing.

However, you know that your relationship are concerned not only by you but also your family, your friends, your colleagues, your relatives, your ex or even someone you never unknown. Obviously, you might feel under pressure since your relationship is being watched by lots of people.

Now you should remember that you’re no longer in the comfort zone because Facebook is able to cause the relationship troubles. Actually, in a relationship your partner would think you cheated one her/him when you had gotten involved inappropriately with members of the opposite sex, Facebook makes it much easier though it might start as an innocent conversation.

Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s very crucial to maintain your integrity and honesty. You obviously should know that you have to be careful and make no mistake when you keep in touch with a guy or girl different from your partner due because it is easy to fall in a form of “cheating”.

What will happen if one day you investigate your partner’s activity with a long-lost high school friend on Facebook or you see many pictures that your partner were tagged with a strange man/woman or you unintentionally read your boyfriend or girl friend’s intimately private message with his/her Facebook friend?

Consequently, these things may incline your relationship status to go awry. As reported in inforgraphic on the subject from Online Dating University, “spending too much time on Facebook can make you acutely aware of your love interest’s posts; overanalyzing what every post means to your relationship can lead to feelings of insecurity.”

Everything’s public, people’s comments might relate to your partner, sometimes it’s actually not good or few constant things remind you about how beautiful moments between you and your ex were, that your current partner may not appreciate as well as it would lead to an argument. Undeniably, Facebook is increasingly being blamed for undermining relationship between couples.

Regarding to this matter, it’s hard to claim whether Facebook is helping or hurting people’s relationship. From some points of view nevertheless at a deeper level, it’s not about Facebook status, it’s about how you deal with your relationship problems once we’re now living in the era of Love 2.0 or how to keep social networking from affecting your relationship.

Whatever your relationship status is, breaking up or getting together, remember that Facebook is just a way to communicate, like the letters, phone calls, and email. The most important thing is to spend plenty of time growing your relationship on a daily basis instead of concerning Facebook page the whole day.

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I was a little girl alone in my little world. I asked God who I’m supposed to be. The stars smiled down on me, God answered in silent reverie. I said a prayer and fell asleep. I had a dream that I could fly from the highest tree.

1 Comment for Facebook and Your Relationship – Dilemma situation

Jack Sprague

I “friended” an ex-girlfriend on facebook so I could catch up with her after 18 years. I just was curious where life had taken her and what she was doing now.
Unfortunately, my current girlfriend received a “suggested friend” from Facebook from my list of friends… guess who? My ex-girlfriend. Nice. Thanks Facebook! That caused a big fight and never should have. I was scraping ice off of the bedroom door for weeks.

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